Are we sure that we want “Equality” or “Superiority” ?

It is about women all around the world irrespective of nationality, religion, color and standard. Women are definitely different from men but we do have our strengths too, which can be used wisely to raise our position. Yes, we need women empowerment and no, we cannot get it by lighting candles. We should do our bit to change the mindsets in the society. At every stage knowingly or unknowingly it is we who are creating the difference or letting others to create it.

A girl child is not sent to grocery store for household stuff, it is her brother’s work. What she misses is basic practical approach which she should understand in early years of her life. If safety is the reason she can be accompanied by her brother or father.

A girl child is not allowed to play with children and is taught to not make guy friends. Why a child should be taught to differentiate on the basis of sexuality while making friends. Why are we not teaching kids to be nice and kind to everyone?

A girl while buying pads needs to be very careful, it should be covered properly and if there is somebody at shop she should wait to let him go and then ask for pads. I really never understood this need to hide it. I remember my mother asked me to buy pads but I was feeling shy. She went with me to shop and asked me to buy it that time I thought maybe she is punishing me for being mischievous but she was actually teaching me that one should not be ashamed unnecessarily.

A girl wants guy to make first move because it doesn’t look good that a girl approaches. This is the result of basic mentality which goes from childhood and so it looks right to girls.

A girl wants guy to pull chair, open door and leave his seat in public transport because it shows guy’s decency. I would say too much decency is expected from guys but do we open doors if we see any old person or do we leave our seats for old or challenged people.

While on a date, a guy should pay if he doesn’t want to look cheap. Now this is so double standards.

He has to propose properly to a girl to marry her. How can this be fair, just because we have seen those Nth insensible and impractical love stories, we burden our guys with a fully planned proposal.

And that is not just it, Guy have to earn more than girl to marry her. A guy is not just a list of qualities we dream about after watching Titanic and notebook. He is much more that. He is someone who was getting created by different situations in life and maybe once he was rude but then he saw goodness and understood the point of being gentle and now may be he is changed or maybe he will keep changing in life as per the conditions.

I always thought I wanted a drummer with immense intelligence, he should be good in sports and good sense of humor but this is all bullshit. Human beings are capable of changing themselves drastically, so each time you define a quality, you actually are restricting yourselves to it and there are so many “maybe” that nothing seems to make sense in long term.

So rather than burdening Men, we can proceed to make women strong. We can decide for ourselves from early age, it just depends on our capability; it has nothing to do with strict parents or insane society rules. I have seen women rising from most backward class to perfectly independent girls and I have also seen girls from liberal families to do nothing but asking others to control them.

It is high time to understand that yes being a woman or girl is beautiful but are we good human beings? Are we leading in right direction or defining every situation as per our convenience?

Women in Relationships

I am living away from home since my secondary high school. That means I have lived in Hostels, PGs, flats and yes travelled a lot. This information is significant as somehow these are the places where girls are most comfortable to talk about their relationships and problems related to it.

So yes I have seen girls having different kind of relationships and their role in it. Let’s see how many of you can relate..

Mummy Papa Didi Jeeju family drama girl

This girl just want to get in a relationship, she starts scanning on the first day of school, college, office, hobby class, Gym or just while after dinner walk. Her sole aim is to find a guy who is presentable enough and then she just jumps into the relationship. She is told so she believes that till she is young she should find someone and trap him into family drama.

Before he comes to know her hobbies,or her favourite color or types of movies, he gets to know his sister’s mother in law’s stories. She doesn’t leave a single chance to get herself introduced to his friends, relatives, kaam wali bai or Colony’s Guard and yes cycle goes Vice versa.

Kuchu kuchu girl

She is just not a planner. She lives in present and believes in the moment only, doing kuchi-kuchi. She can give her boyfriend n number of pet names n he has to play along. She wants to get pampered, all her life she imagines that someone will come on white horse and will pamper her all her life and she will be princess. She just doesn’t want to see and believe anything else. She can spend hours on phone saying “baby see the moon, I am also watching it…blah blah blah”

Psycho lover

She meets her soul mate, each and every time she gets into a relationship. She chases a guy, sets scenario, tells made up emotional stories to gain his sympathy and wishes that guy will fall for her someday. And when he does fall, she just can’t see through anything else. She becomes the Rose of titanic. Her belief is that everything is getting filmed and she has to act accordingly. Even if something wrong happens she in her mind thinks that “no it was just a scene from movie which can be deleted”. She literally becomes so obsessed with the guy that if he says anything which can be the most stupid and made-up thing ever, she will believe it and even can justify on his behalf.

The Changer

This girl picks a guy to change him. She chooses the most infamous guy and plans to fix him. She enjoys the fact that she has all the characteristics of the coach. This girl is always filled with so much Gyan and opinions that she teaches and showers it every now and then.

Nodding Idiot

Her guy cheats on her, says bad things about her in public and even doesn’t claims her as his girlfriend in public, but she believes him. She thinks he will do it at the right time. He can use her for sex, money anything but she is just so ignorant that “Mr foolish” story gets new meanings because of her presence. He knows he completely has her so she will be manipulated in the relationship all the time. But somehow this girl needs someone who can instruct her and she will always nod in support.

Bhaav Girl

She gets a guy who just love her, she also thinks he is cool but she is so self obsessed and full of attitude that she never leaves a single chance to “khaao bhaav”. Her motive in life is to be the centre of the stage of drama where everyone else is to please her. She decides each and everything in the relationship and when she faces some friction she can and will definitely use her manipulative powers.

Cool girl

This girl has so much to do in her life that she can live without a guy, but somehow she gets to meet someone of her taste. She knows how to pace a relationship. She needs her space and never gets into his space too. Guy knows her but each passing day he gets to invent something new about her. These girls are somehow too headstrong that guy can feel unimportant in the relationship. So yes high probability is there for breakups