It is about women all around the world irrespective of nationality, religion, color and standard. Women are definitely different from men but we do have our strengths too, which can be used wisely to raise our position. Yes, we need women empowerment and no, we cannot get it by lighting candles. We should do our bit to change the mindsets in the society. At every stage knowingly or unknowingly it is we who are creating the difference or letting others to create it.
A girl child is not sent to grocery store for household stuff, it is her brother’s work. What she misses is basic practical approach which she should understand in early years of her life. If safety is the reason she can be accompanied by her brother or father.
A girl child is not allowed to play with children and is taught to not make guy friends. Why a child should be taught to differentiate on the basis of sexuality while making friends. Why are we not teaching kids to be nice and kind to everyone?
A girl while buying pads needs to be very careful, it should be covered properly and if there is somebody at shop she should wait to let him go and then ask for pads. I really never understood this need to hide it. I remember my mother asked me to buy pads but I was feeling shy. She went with me to shop and asked me to buy it that time I thought maybe she is punishing me for being mischievous but she was actually teaching me that one should not be ashamed unnecessarily.
A girl wants guy to make first move because it doesn’t look good that a girl approaches. This is the result of basic mentality which goes from childhood and so it looks right to girls.
A girl wants guy to pull chair, open door and leave his seat in public transport because it shows guy’s decency. I would say too much decency is expected from guys but do we open doors if we see any old person or do we leave our seats for old or challenged people.
While on a date, a guy should pay if he doesn’t want to look cheap. Now this is so double standards.
He has to propose properly to a girl to marry her. How can this be fair, just because we have seen those Nth insensible and impractical love stories, we burden our guys with a fully planned proposal.
And that is not just it, Guy have to earn more than girl to marry her. A guy is not just a list of qualities we dream about after watching Titanic and notebook. He is much more that. He is someone who was getting created by different situations in life and maybe once he was rude but then he saw goodness and understood the point of being gentle and now may be he is changed or maybe he will keep changing in life as per the conditions.
I always thought I wanted a drummer with immense intelligence, he should be good in sports and good sense of humor but this is all bullshit. Human beings are capable of changing themselves drastically, so each time you define a quality, you actually are restricting yourselves to it and there are so many “maybe” that nothing seems to make sense in long term.
So rather than burdening Men, we can proceed to make women strong. We can decide for ourselves from early age, it just depends on our capability; it has nothing to do with strict parents or insane society rules. I have seen women rising from most backward class to perfectly independent girls and I have also seen girls from liberal families to do nothing but asking others to control them.
It is high time to understand that yes being a woman or girl is beautiful but are we good human beings? Are we leading in right direction or defining every situation as per our convenience?